Our life is very routine because that is what works best for A. Fridays are usually our most fun days because we get to all be together and have a lot of fun. Usually after art class we go over to the open play class for the girls. The same children are there every week and the children have their own routine. A is having an extremely hard time right now and was showing a lof of inflexibility. Most of the parents have watched us go through this horror show and are somewhat aware of what is going on. We’ve done well to hide things and reduce our public image over the past several months so our issues might have been forgotten a bit.
However, A was quite hyped up this afternoon. There was also a boy there who only comes about once a month and he changes the dynamic when he is there. These 2 things made for a bad situation for us today. After about 90 seconds, I knew we had made a bad choice in going to the open play. I quickly warned the girls that we would be leaving soon. Somehow a clique seemed to form and A felt alienated. She started howling “You are breaking my heart” to her 2 friends. It was heartbreaking to me. How can a 4 year old say such things?
A was unable to move except to cry. Luckily when I told her I was going to help her she accepted it. Usually this will amp her up even further. But she let me pick her up and carry her out to the lobby this afternoon.
I felt very alone during all of this. All of us parents have been attending this play gym since the children were born 4 years ago. I certainly don’t expect them to solve my problem, but when my child is screaming “You are breaking my heart” to their child, I would expect them to at least hang up the phone! I was shocked and saddened.