Yesterday John and I went out for about 30 mins with his co-workers for a drink. Before we had children we used to do this all the time. This time, though, I thought “this is really NOT what I want to be doing with my babysitter time”. But I thought it was a good idea to mingle a bit more with his co-workers than I have in the last 2 years.
I sat next to a very nice woman and we had a nice chat about nothing in particular. She was a person that I could tell I could certainly talk to again at the Christmas party. After about 7 minutes she paused and very intently asked me “So, what do you do?” I really almost laughed out loud. I know that John is much more private about having a child with special needs but for some reason I thought that this group might know that I was a stay at home mom. I was the only spouse in attendance. For some reason I had a bit of a hard time saying that I stay at home with our children. Not because I am embarrassed about it but because we don’t just have 2 Gerber baby children. Somehow I got it out that I stay at home and she said “Oh, that must be SO nice!!!!” I quickly realized where this was going and I took no offense to the conversation. However, I was completely shocked. This woman was at the most 5 years younger than me. She wasn’t 21. Then she says “Well, how are you enjoying the break?” It was really hard not to laugh. But I know that my face must have had a look of disbelief on it because she quickly said “well, I’m sure it’s a lot of work”. And then I understood her perspective when she said ‘”it is so cool that you are there during their formative years. I never had that because both of my parents worked”. But I’m pretty sure she thinks this is just a hobby of mine. I’m still laughing about it today.